It is 7:30 in the morning.
The rose gold light of the sunrise filters through my sheer curtains, bathing my bedroom in an almost reverent glow.
In my drowsy Nightquil fueled haze, I make out the sound of little feet scurrying and whispered threats of waking Mom. My wild ones are wide awake. Looting the kitchen for hidden treats that I purchased for the impending school year. Future theifs they will not be, at least not good ones anyhow.
As I creak out of bed, trying to stifle a laugh from the sounds just outside of my door, I come to terms with the familiar knot in my gut. I have spent the last few weeks as a giant ball of anxiety. I have worked myself into such a tizzy that my junk set of lungs has decided to act up, leaving me with a cough that sounds like I have smoked a pack a day for the last 40 years. My stomach has been in knots with the thought of the upcoming school year.
The last 3 years of Aiden’s school experience was a nightmare. My husband and I fought endlessly with the school he was attending. Getting a 504 put into place and having it followed was a massive struggle. Bullying was a constant issue since kindergarten. Keeping “well meaning” hindrances away from him was a feat. Trying to find a new way to teach him at home as well as at school has been an interesting learning experience for both Aiden and myself. It was a hard learned lesson and I came out a fierce, yet quite frazzled, Momma Bear.
Last summer his anxiety became apparent, school was his biggest trigger. The mere mention of reading in front of the class spun him into a panic attack. Through lots of counseling, meditation and positive thinking, he actually seems excited about this next year. I hide my own anxiety about what may come with a smile and a hug. Nothing but positivity and calming techniques flow from my mouth while my insides feel as though they are lit up like a Christmas tree.
My biggest worry though is for my little hummingbird, Blake. He will start kindgarten tomorrow. While I am well versed in Aiden’s school experience, Blake’s is a whole new chapter. Some of my worries are similar to that of other kindergarten parents: Will he enjoy school? Will he be able make a new friend? Will he listen to the teacher? Will he know what bus to get on to?
It is my other worries that keep me up at night: Will he bite? Will he be able to let the teacher know if something isn’t right? Will he participate in class? What if he gets lost? If he does, will he be able to tell anyone the right information?
Even though he has been in speech for the last year and a half, I still struggle to understand him most days.
My little hummingbird is full of questions and burning curiosity. He loves to make knock knock jokes and has an unbelievable amount of love in him. He also has a hard time with communication and sensory issues which can cause problems in school.
I so badly want to protect him from everyhing that could go wrong. I want to protect him from the mean kids, the kids who might not understand, from people with short fuses and non existent patience levels. I want to protect him from thinking that his intelligence level comes from how well he performs on a standardized test.
Yet in the end, I can’t send him to school in a plastic bubble. That would definitely do more harm than good. Even though I am terrified with what may happen and how it might come to change my beautiful little hummingbird, it is not in my hands. I can write our address and phone number in his backpack. I can constantly tell him how wonderful he is and how much I love him. I can give him tools to help him succeed. To be there to dust him off and help him back up when life kicks his ass. Being the massive control freak that I am, giving it up to the universe and letting whatever come what may has been extremely hard to come to terms with and is something I struggle with on a daily basis. But that is the only way they will learn.
So I say to you world:
Here are my cubs.
Please be gentle.
Love,
Momma Bear